A Foggy Fall, and a Crisp New Year

I typically use this time of year as a time for reflection and goal setting. As I sat down to write this post, I realized I was looking back at 2009 with foggy lenses.

The first 2/3 of this year were all about parties, celebrations, vacations. I had more fun this year than I've had in many, many years. I've felt younger, more relaxed, hotter, more confident...and I relished the moments.

The last 1/3 of this year has been tougher. I've been anxious and worried. Money has been tighter than it's been in a very long time. And I'm launching a new business model way outside my comfort zone and realizing I'm not as "fearless" as I've always prided myself as being.

I need to wipe the fog off my glasses, and look ahead...2010 is going to bring some amazing things. Success, Love, building a Future...

Here's wishing the New Year is a "10" for all of you!!!!

Relationship Role Models

Yes, I often speak about how I’d like a significant, healthy relationship in my life. About how I’d like to be married.

Yet, ironically, I rarely look at someone else’s relationship or marriage and think “I want that!”

Most people I know in relationships are content, but not necessarily happy. And they certainly are not excited.

The best relationships I see are older couples…Couples who have been together for many years. Who met when they were very young. Before they decided to have a long list of “what they’re looking for in a partner”. They grew up together, struggled like crazy to make it work. It often wasn’t perfect, but they have settled into a happiness and contentment. People like my parents- I never wanted a marriage like theirs, yet they now seem very happy together, having the time of their lives.

But everyone else? Hmmmmm. .. I don’t know anyone my age who is really happy and excited about their partnership. Who thinks it’s one of the best things to ever happen to them. Most of my partnered friends border on discontented. I'm seeing people go through shorter and shorter relationships...They commit for a handful of months, find a gazillion things wrong with the other person, then bail out.

There have been a few times when I thought- “Wow! Finally! They look like they have an awesome marriage!” Then I eventually see the cracks in the surface and discover I wasn’t completely right in my initial assumption.

Please tell me I’m wrong… Tell me about your relationship role models!