Whadya Know?
Last weekend I was asking my youngest brother, CK about his relationship with his girlfriend (some may say questioning, interrogating, or even grilling, but I really was just curious!)
See, I know CK wants to be married. I know he wants a family- and he's been with this woman for over two years, so I was wondering what his thoughts were.
He told me that sometimes it seems like marrying her would be "cool" and it feels good, and sometimes he just doesn't know.
To that, I respond "Well, I'm not sure you ever really know for sure."
My brother GS, who has been married for over 11 years, chimes in,
"You never really know. But you know."
Interesting. Could that be true?
As I think back over my close calls with the institution of marriage, I realize I did know. I knew we weren't right for each other as lifelong partners.
In the case of my most recent love, I knew we'd be great as spouses. But I also knew that he would never in a million years be ready (or even want) to be a spouse.
So knowing trumps knowing.
Conclusion? Trust my gut. She's pretty smart.
posted by Aileen @ 1:40 PM
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3 Comments:
Exactly. As in all things it comes down to what you feel in your gut. In the child abuse training that is mandated for all teachers they stress that you should go with your gut that something is wrong even if the physical evidence is not necessarily there.
But I digress. In love we know the right one from the one who is right for now don't we.
I knew I shouldn't have married both of my ex husbands. But did I listen?
Duh!
Drawing from my own (most totally awesome) story, I can tell you:
The rock-solid guarantee that marriage will happen is when both parties vocally and sincerely agree that, and I quote: "Marriage isn't necessary, and, like, we can just live together indefinitely, because like, it's just a piece of paper; we don't need THAT to define what we are...."
Once the conversation goes that way, set your calendars: Marriage will commence in less than 16 months.
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