"TMI, Facebook, TMI!"

Occasionally, my non-Facebook-using friends ask "Doesn't it bother you to have that kind of personal information out there for the world to see?"

My answer has always been "no". I don't care, because I have a certain amount of control over what I post.

What bothers me is what I see on Facebook: information I may have been better off not knowing.

A few days ago, I opened up my Facebook page and saw a prominent "News Item" on my home page:

AileensExwithOccasionalBenefits has changed his status from Single to In a Relationship.

What?!

Brief background on AEOB: we dated briefly several years ago and parted amicably. He's very good looking and fun and we have periodic dates that may or may not end platonically. He's also the good male friend that told me he would consider fathering a child with me if I decided I wanted to have a child on my own. Though I did not accept his offer, it was comforting to have it as an option.

I also just saw him a few short weeks ago. We had a good time, we were flirtatious as always. And he never mentioned he was dating someone.

Then, the next day, he links to his girlfriend on his profile page. Then changes his profile pic to a "couple pic" (gag!)

I notice his girlfriend is a woman who has been regularly commenting on his profile for months now...I never really gave it much thought. And the whole "throwing snowballs at each other stuff"...I completely ignored. That kind of FB silliness just doesn't register on my radar.

I sent him a private message saying "I guess we have some catching up to do- I didn't even know you were dating anyone!"

He responded "he he he".

Damn, I was pissed. Truth be told, I'm still pissed. Not completely sure why- am I jealous? Did I want to be with him? I doubt that- if that had been the case, I'm sure I would have done something about it long ago. But now my male buddy is taken. And I thought we were at least good friends, yet he failed to tell me about this development in his life?

Another similar incident took place last week. Prominently in my news feed I see: The Cop has also commented on his photo. Then it displays his comment: "Gee thanks, girlie!"

This also pissed me off. Let me explain...The Cop calls me girlie. I've always liked it. And this comment he displayed on his photo? Was in response to some other chick saying how good he looks in the picture. Yeah, this is supposedly my FWB that doesn't have any other women in his life at the moment. Reality check, Aileen.

Damn you, Facebook, I didn't need this kind of grief!